Have you ever stayed independently? in a big bad city?

Well, it’s not easy I’ll tell you that. But with all the confusion of staying alone and being independent comes some of life’s biggest lessons.

I, still learning the ropes on the whole “being a responsible adult” bit, listed the few things I think we all learn when we are free birds for the first time.

1. Self discipline

No doubt about this being the very first lesson. in the absence of your mother, there is no one to pull you out of bed because you’re late. You will have to muster the will power to drag out of bed, even though your brain screams, “you can call in sick!! sleeplessness is a sickness, isn’t it”.


2. Learning how to read people

Living alone also essentially means getting better at understanding things around you, including people. You know who is a friend and who is pretending to be one. You will learn how to handle the sweet-but-stabbing-you-in-the-back colleague with a smile.


3. Safety becomes a priority

Having independence comes attached with a clause : responsibility. No one knows whether you waltz in the door at 1 in the morning or 3. So you become responsible enough to look out for yourself.


4. Self indulgence

Though self discipline is the first thing you learn, indulging yourself once in a while makes it to the list too. Because there will be times when you celebrate your small triumphs and try to get over a bad day all by yourself. And what better than a huge bowl of popcorn and a Friends marathon.


5. Being your own best friend, and well, your worst enemy

When you stay independently, you are self reliant. And can take credit for all that’s right, and complete responsibility for all that goes hay wire. Valuable lesson, since it helps to know yourself better. The good, the bad, the ugly. Welcome to absolute self acceptance.


I think everyone should stay alone and independently once at least. No one and nothing else can reach you these.

What else would you add to this list??

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